These days I was very frust .May be It was all anxieties associated with the transitition period in the life. I withdrew myself in the solitude so that I can think about the current situation in my life. In the starting I was very bitter I thought that all faults are in others and I am just victim of their follies. But actually when I thought it again and again then I realize that happiness is very intrinsic thing .Its basis couldn’t depend upon anything external. Happiness is just a state of mind. A person who has everything in life may not be happy but a hermit who has nothing not even surety of his next meal may be happy and content . So it mean that to find real happiness we should not look out in the world but we should look deep inside and explore our inner self to find out the real reason for unhappiness. So the first thing I did is stop blaming others for anything. I always first try to find what wrong I did rather than looking them in others. I realized that its my over expectation that is the root of all problems. I want everyone to be like me which is not at all practical. Everyone has his or her own ways of thinking even different value system based on which they decide what is wrong and right. So what is right for me maybe not at all right for others. So I thought lets try to place everything that can affect my peace and happiness inside. A person’s inside is always affected by the external because we are connected with it by our senses. Many of our emotional feeling have basis in outside world but we can practice to limit its influence in taking decision. They are just input but the decision is taken by the wisdom or myself. That has some influence of the external but not entirely and more we can make it internal more we are in control of our feelings. So I took a break from our all kind of acquaintances including friends and family and went to self impose seclusions. In this period I attained most of my mental peace and a right perspective to look things . I came out as more tolerant and definitely more cool. I was also kind of frust by my job. Though in frustration I might have said it to be very boring and monotonous but actually it’s not like that. Plus I realized that I was frustrated because I was not doing it well. These day I have started seeking perfection in everything I do. I really enjoy the feeling that I have done something that cann’t be done better than that way. Doing a thing with perfection is really a divine feeling its gives a satisfaction that I am giving my best. As Richacrd bach has said in “Jonathan Livingston Seagull” that perfection is heaven. There is a satisfaction in learning new things. Though I didn’t realized this in my college day but anyways never is too late. Generally people learn thing and then apply .But I like the other way round. My team works in field of predictive model and I am really interested in behavioral models. It’s really fasinating that how maths can be used to predict the behavior of masses. I don’t have much stats background but I really like to read new things these day. I am studying stats and AI all by myself. This is very surprising for me as well because in my college day I never studied anything more than minimum required. But now I really want to learn everything that comes ion my way its not because that it will put me in better bargaining position in job interview, its only because I never excelled in my life and for one time I want to excel in anything I do.In my office I try to take most challenging and difficult of task>It help me to spend my time and plus I feel good when I can do it on my own.

SENSE AND SENSIBILITY

These days I am reading a lot of novels. So doing that I read two Jane Austen one after other. Pride and prejudice is my favorite and I have read it before as well so I really enjoy the conversation between Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth and Jane . But two Jane Austen one after other is really too much for me. When I started sense and sensibility I was really very bore in starting that here comes again a novel about a mom with 3 pretty daughter and how to get them settled in good families. In most of Jane Austen novels its ladies always gossiping about the affair or possible affair and planning to make gentleman of higher ranks fall in love with them. The same is story in sense and sensibility as well. But I continued inspite of these thing as I had nothing to do or read. But as the story progresses I was really struck by the character of sensible Elinor .The way she carried her grace and dignity between provoking company and a stupid and arrogant sister was really great. All of her conversation showed that how people should behave in disadvantageous position. Everybody have problem in there life .But the sorrows of life is very personal. One should not display there misery in public and use them to gain sympathy or attention of others. The way Elinor handled her problems was really admirable. She never bothered others with her troubles and always maintained her composure even when her rival in love announced her victory on her face. She helped her sister and always stood by her consoling her in her problems and taking on her every problem on herself. Even when they were in company where everyone wanted to enjoy the scandal or a spicy heart break she shielded her sister from that when at the same time she was also in middle of breakup Though the ending of this novel was very abrupt to me. All of sudden everything was sorted and everything happened for all good. It is not as smooth like in pride and prejudice. The story of pride and prejudice is really balanced and there is smooth transition of events. In that it took a lot of time for Elizabeth to shed her prejudice toward Mr. Darcy backed by favorable circumstances .In fact that novel has all good collection of great character. In that novel Elizabeth wit and practicality is well supported by the goodness of character of Jane. At the same time the pride of Mr. Darcy controlled by his superior mind is also great. That is why every page of pride and prejudice is interesting but in sense and sensibility I found only Elinor character and all her conversations interesting. Her sister’s transition from one extreme to another was too much for me. I don’t believe that people can so easily and quickly forget their love and can generate similar strong feeling for other. Maybe her character does not fit in my way of thinking. Beside it I also feel that love and affection are very personal feeling and some concealment is required. In both of novel Jane and Marianne suffered because they could not keep there love private and subjected it to public scrutiny and discussion. Elinor at the same time had similar turns in her relation as well but she maintained her calm and grace even her lover was not able to comprehend her feelings. I might have enjoyed it more if I would have read it after some interval from “Pride and Prejudice”. Though story was more or less same but the conversations and fine gentleman type culture of English society was really well presented in that novel. Inspite of that I started that novel with a prejudice in my mind that its going to be same novel some pretty ladies trying to get well placed in matrimony , at some point in the novel I forgot my prejudice and enjoyed it as well .So I will recommend them as worth reading

Solace in solitude

These day I am becoming more and more frust. Nothing cheers me up .All those things which not so long ago use to cheer me up and now killing me with boredom. I think that my frustration is now spilling out and I end up hurting or frustating people around me and polluting the envoironment around me. I have started looking out for faults in everyone around me except myself. I don’t enjoy talking to anyone mainly because there is nothing that interest me now .

The only thing that give me solace is my solitude. There is a different kind of peace in absolute solitude. In absolute solitude you can relax your mind and can keep it vacant for a long time. Most of problems are nothing but creation of our mind. If anyone can control it he or she can stimulate emotions at his or her will . Solitude gives the time to reflects the proceedings in detail and to analyze the situation in better light. Sometime when we are emotional we may rush into the decision but that is not always right because at that time our wisdom is overcome by emotions. I am not saying that all action should be based on wisdom always or everything should be thoroughly thought . This will certainly kill the wonderfulness of unpredictability and surprises. But sometimes you have to think even after doing something that what could be the repercussions of your actions and how it reveals itself to others. Before coming here I never enjoyed the loneliness .It was like pain to me , I always used to rush to company whenever I was alone .But these days I am finding solace in my solitude .I am more than often going for a long walk completely engrossed in myself and not giving a damn care to the surroundings. Though I could not find a complete aloof place as a live in relatively busy area but still I try to remain in myself even in crowds. In absolute privacy things are clearer to me. I can easily see that all problem are within me not in others. I am in habit of blaming other for every little problem I have and recently I realized that actually it’s not others but my own follies and shortcomings are the reason for my frustration. When I am all alone I try not to think about others because right now I not at all in state to appreciate the wonderfulness of others behaviors so I confine my thought about myself. I always tend to analyze that how my action would affect others if I think that some of my action is improper that I unforgettably say sorry for that. I try my best to keep clean from myself. When a spend more than an hour all by self with no disturbance at all I come back very light and fresh. Many personal problems are well sorted out during that period with best possible actions with all pros and cons properly analyzed. Not only that I pick out all the wrongdoings of mine, I also think of all possible amendments to rectify them. But the only problem is the wrong notion about being loner. I am fast becoming infamous in my circle that I am frust man. People always suggest me that company is good and loneliness is hell. But it is fine as I am more than happy in my hell and I don’t want to share it with anybody. I am fed up with all artificial countenances around me and I want to be natural myself. That may be not as handsome after all makeup but hey that’s me . I enjoy the nakedness of my inner self when I am all alone I feel connected to nature and god. I feel that why to rely upon something whose basis is external why not to seek solution of all problem inside us . Why to crib about the world outside why not enjoy the whole universe as master of it which dwells inside? Why to cry about others what is more important than self? So I found a new hobby talking to myself. People will think that its mad but you know that this madness will give me a veil from the external. It will conceal the things which are too precious for me to share with anyone.